Sophie Pagalday – Author of Who Will Hold Me?

Sophie Pagalday joins us from Golden, Colorado in the United States, along with her 8 year-old daughter. As a certified mindset coach and author, Sophie has a mission to help single moms go from depleted and overwhelmed, to balance and fulfilled. 

In her book Who Will Hold Me?, Sophie provides a powerful account of her story and challenges. She had to leave her marriage after so many years and seek a whole new meaning and purpose to her pain. Her reflection on the obstacles, emotions, and trauma of staying in a marriage that only took her away from herself really tugged at our heartstrings.

“After going on a deep path of transformation myself and coming out at the other end personally experiencing what’s possible for single mothers, I decided to turn around and guide other women toward the life that they’ve been craving.“
Sophie Pagalday

Here is Sophie’s personal account of her life story and how it has put her on our list of Inspirational Single Mothers.

Tell us about yourself, your hobbies, what do you love doing?

Sophie: Besides traveling the world (on hold due to the pandemic right now), one of my favorite things is seeing single moms make a decision to stop surviving and start thriving. And to follow through as they create the life of their dreams.

Today, I live in the foothills of Colorado, USA with my “tiny guru” – my 8-year-old daughter. I learn as much from her as she learns from me. And I believe with every cell of my being that we’ve been divinely matched to walk this path together. We meditate – a LOT! And you may also find us outside exploring nature, jumping in a creek, or making friends (social distanced these days).

What was rock bottom for you when you became a single mom? 

Sophie: A few years ago, I attended a spiritual retreat that would set in motion several life-altering events. The first happened when I returned home and decided to leave my seven-year marriage. This was the start of many harrowing experiences involving my now ex-husband that put my three-year old daughter and I directly in the path of his self-destruction.

All I wanted was to be able to shake off my reality and build a new life.

I was heartbroken and bewildered by how quickly my seemingly-stable life was upended. I watched my ex-husband be overcome by addiction as I was dealing with the new reality of being the sole provider for our daughter- both emotionally and financially. The situation seemed impossible and I was repeatedly discouraged and devastated by everything that was happening.

Amid the turmoil, I turned within for answers to the painful and traumatic conditions my daughter and I were enduring. Through a deep journey of self-discovery and letting go, I reclaimed my freedom. I became free from external expectations, pressures and even free from the circumstances that were causing struggle and unnecessary suffering in my life.

Sophie Pagalday

What inspired you to do what you do?

Sophie: After personally experiencing the life-changing shift that’s possible for single moms, I became wildly passionate about sharing the lessons I learned along the way on my own path of self-discovery.

With a vision to guide single moms through their own transformation, I developed my unique Awakening Single Mom™ Framework. This framework takes a holistic approach to transforming thoughts, emotions, behaviors and results. My programs incorporate tools and techniques from my training as a Certified Mindset Coach, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Coach, NLP Practitioner, Time Line Therapy Practitioner and Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, as well as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Mindfulness, Behavior Modeling and Positive Psychology.

Sophie: My top tip is let go of the resistance and have a flexible plan. As single moms, so many times, we’re moving so fast. We get so overwhelmed that our needs and the urgent become at odds with what’s right in front of us in the present moment. Often, we roll with the punches. And without even noticing how it happens, we start punching back. With no plan or flexibility, we can very easily be caught off guard and sent over the edge, lashing out and creating even more stress and conflict.  

What is the one value or lesson you can take away from becoming a single mom?

Sophie: I firmly believe we each have the power to transform our lives.  Even when everything feels like it’s falling apart. My own life is proof of that, and part of what I teach my clients is how to tap into that power in a very real, tangible way so they can create real change in every area of their life. 

Any advice for other single moms?

Sophie: Don’t let your single mom title control your destiny! And, please, never give up. You’re a woman with desires and needs. And you don’t have to sacrifice yourself to be a good or even great mom!

You can create a life full of love and choice from which everything is possible for you. Believe in yourself because you DO have what it takes. 
Sophie Pagalday

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Who Will Hold Me? can be found on Amazon or visit www.sophiepagalday.com.

Moms can download Sophie’s free Awakening Single Mom Time Maker workbook here and/or her free 20-minute meditation here.

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